- Listens to you
- Laughs at your dumb jokes (This is crucial, all my jokes are dumb)
- Empathizes with you
- You can tell anything to
- Is honest with you
- You never run out of things to talk about with
- You have inside jokes with
- Tolerates your incessant complaining
- Is amused by and/or interested in your weird interests (Aliens, ghosts, alternate realities)
- They can improve your mood
- They encourage you to do things that inspire you OR dumb stuff that will get you in trouble but will still probably be really fun
- Support you in tough times
- Friends can help you know yourself better and shape who you become
- Friends alleviate loneliness
- DO ask open ended questions.
On Chatous I usually like to ask people questions about where they live and how they like it, what they do for fun etc. and then see how it compares to where I live and the things I do. For example: “What do you like about living in antarctica? What do you do for fun? What was it like being raised by polar bears?” You never know what you could have in common with an Antarctican(?) raised by Polar Bears.(This is exhibit A of a dumb joke that only a friend would laugh at..and maybe not even then.)
- DON’T ask for a pic first thing. It’s plain rude.
There’s a reason Chatous doesn’t have profile pics. We want to encourage people to get to know each other for who they are, not what they look like. After you get to know someone it’s socially acceptable to ask, but asking first thing is a blatant violation of the unspoken laws of the Chatousphere.
- DO send pics of a view from your window or the street.
I love getting photos like this. It gives me a sense of my new friends life. This is the pic I like to send so people have an idea of where I live and what I do. (AKA drink champagne on rooftops and troll Chatous in my spare time)
- DON’T Just use Chatous for meeting a gf/bf.
It’s not a dating site. There’s more to life people. Sure people meet all the time on Chatous and fall in love and its really cute blah blah (see: A Controversial Love Story) but if you’re using it for the sole purpose of online dating, you could be missing out on meeting some really interesting friends.
- DO Share media.
I love sending gifs (obviously) and memes and YouTube vids to my new friends, it’s fun to bond over something hilarious and get an idea of someone else’s sense of humor. Here are a few of my fav YouTube vids ATM:
Rob Cantor’s Shia LeBeouf – Epic
Three Beat Slide – Can’t tell if they’re trolling or serious
Drunk Kitchen – Classic
- DO Find things you have in common.
Talk about music, sports, food, culture, hobbies, etc. Finding someone in another part of the world who likes some of the same stuff you do is such a cool feeling.
- DON’T beg people to be your friend…It’s unbecoming. Oops.
“I felt the need to send my appreciation to everyone who led to the development of this application. Without you, I would never have met the love of my life, the man I intend to marry. Thanks Chatous Team – I owe you everything!”
You’re welcome, Lindsay 🙂
But sorry ex-fiance 😦
but yay Lindsay 🙂
The internet is pretty cool. It connects and informs people. The news is constantly updated with the latest happenings in the world. People from around the world constantly update Twitter with all the latest. Instagram and Snapchat update you with personal pictures. You can search for topics with hashtags and read, write and like posts.
What’s really incredible and unique though, is being able to really interact with someone in another part of the world, in a one on one conversation and be able to get an intimate account of their views. To talk to someone about their religion or their country or their view on a current event without filters or public broadcasting is a truly unique experience that you can only really get if you travel the world.
Chatous is kind of like traveling the world through your phone, at least that’s how I think of it.
Today I was interested in seeing what people around the world had to say about the tragic terrorist attack on Charlie Hebdo. After scanning Twitter, I took to Chatous and joined the tag #JeSuisCharlie. What I found was pretty interesting and led me to meet some amazing people with interesting views on terrorism, Islam, and life in general.
When an act of terror occurs and the perpetrators are Islamic extremists, I think all Muslims tend to feel the brunt of the accusation and an entire group of people feel inadvertently blamed for the actions of a few. So I want to talk about my friends, Emad and Dani, whom I met on Chatous.
Dani and I got matched in #JeSuisCharlie. From his bio I learned that he is 25 years old and a Muslim living in Yemen. I asked him how he felt about the Charlie Hebdo terrorists being Muslim. He said “These terrorists are not true Muslims they are just defaming Islam. Islam does not teach this. Its a religion of peace. They are just using the name of Islam. They are not Muslims, I’m sure of it. How can they be? They must be brainwashed. And we Muslims are the ones who are mostly affected by them.”
Yemen is riddled with violence and terrorism so I asked Dani, how he deals with that and if he is scared all the time. He said “We’re just used to it, and if my time ends, I’ll die on my bed. Everything is in Gods hands.” Not fearing death is an important principle of Islam. Then I asked him how he distracts himself from the violence, he said he focuses on his school work, he is studying to be a medical equipment engineer. He said when he’s not studying his second priority is his friends and girlfriend. Sounds pretty normal right? It’s truly remarkable how Dani maintains the livelihood of a “normal” 25 year old man when he is constantly surrounded by imminent terror.
Today, on Chatous, I met Marya. She’s 20 years old and from a place I’ve never heard of before called Ushuaia. Ushuaia looks and sounds like a winter wonderland. To describe it Marya said, “It’s a little fisher town, capital city of Tierra del Fuego province, it’s the southern tip of Argentina. It’s a land of glaciers, penguins and mountains, with dense pine tree forests everywhere.” So in my mind this is what Ushuaia looks like:
(Yes – That is Arendelle from Disney’s Frozen)
In reality this what Ushuaia looks like:
Which actually isn’t too far off.
Anyway, Marya is a pretty rad chick. She studies Zoology at the University and is in her 2nd year. She has two older brothers and a younger sister, as well as a seven yr old siberian husky called Amélie and a 6 yr old snowshoe cat called Dzíekí. Even though most of the population of Ushuaia is 60+ years old Marya finds ways to have “loads” of fun. She said that she frequently snowboards, hikes, plays ice hockey and tennis. In the summer she fishes and sails.
Pretty much Marya lives the dream.
(This is probably what Marya looks like, living the dream in Ushuaia)
But then Marya told me some pretty crazy things about the Argentinian government. She told me how corrupt it is and that for the last 12 years, its been the worst it’s ever been. A lot of production has stopped and infrastructure has been ruined without plans of rebuilding. She said “The rising poverty and crime in big cities has been a nightmare for us. All this generates a real social destabilization.” She also mentioned that many leaders of the country are involved in heavy narcotic trafficking.
I started to think about what that kind of oppression must be like and I felt bad for Marya… but then we started talking about her family and friends and she really put things into perspective for me. She said “my friends are iron friends, they’re people who would never let you down, we have nothing really, we’re middle class people, nobody is rich, still I’m sure we’re much happier than many rich ones. I think friendship is what makes you rich, anyway.”
And that’s why I’m glad I met Marya. She’s a beautiful soul living in a far away wintry land full of corruption and also beauty. She’s someone I might never have met otherwise, but I’m so glad I did. Talking to her made me realize how important it is to be grateful for what you have and also that relationships, not circumstance or material things, are what matter in life.
And that’s how Marya and I became friends.
If you have awesome stories about the people you’ve met on Chatous let me know! You can chat with me on Chatous whenever. I’m pretty much always on! My username is @andifromchatous.
Tired of getting skipped? Tired of having the same old conversation over and over again? If you answered yes to any of these questions, then you should probably try to be more interesting…here’s how!
1. When Someone Asks the Age Old Question “What’s up?” Don’t Say “not much, you?”
This question is the first step in getting to know someone. When I ask this question I’m looking for a hint or a clue about who this person really is…like maybe what you’re doing at the moment or how you’re feeling. By saying “not much” you’re not giving me any new info and we’re back to square one. Even if you’re just sitting on the couch watching TV, at least then I can ask you what you’re watching and then maybe we’ll talk about our favorite TV shows and then maybe we’ll bond over our mutual love of New Girl and then maybe we’ll become best friends forever.
2. Explore More
Get out and do more stuff…then tell people about it! Having hobbies is a sure-fire way to be more interesting and make new friends! First of all, when you are passionate about something it gives you depth, second of all, when you have a story to tell people are more likely to pay attention. Explore new ideas, places and opinions and then SHARE them!
3. Have Some Good Stories on Hand
It’s a good rule of thumb to just have a few outrageous stories than you can whip out in a time of need. Whether it’s something hilarious that happened to you or something magical or something touching…stories are a great way to connect and inspire interest. My personal favorites are ghost stories… if someone has great ghost stories I instantly want to be their friend.
4. Be a Good Listener
Sometimes we forget to listen because we just want to be heard. But, truth is, the people who are great listeners are the most captivating. Ask more questions, people love talking about themselves. If you ask people more questions about themselves they will love you.
5. Embrace Your Weirdness
Don’t be afraid to be who you are! If you like weird stuff, if you do weird stuff, if you have weird opinions, let the world know! It’s what makes you different and different is always interesting.
6. Write About Your Interests in Your Bio
Let people know what you’re all about!
Welcome to the best blog you’ll ever read.
Chatous is all about meeting new people, right? So we thought it would be a good idea to make our blog about, you guessed it…meeting new people! We’re going to update you with the best stories about the people WE meet on Chatous, the people YOU meet on Chatous and just people-meeting in general. We will also update you on cool features and other awesome stuff.
But First…. Here’s how you can be a better a person just by meeting someone new (On Chatous [and other places too, but mostly on Chatous] )
1. You never know what you might learn from someone else.
- Especially when they are from another part of the world. Learning about other cultures and lifestyles enriches your life and gives you a broader perspective.
2. Brain Stimulation
- Just 10 minutes of interacting with someone new increases your cognitive performance. Actively talking to others and processing social cues wakes up your brain and allows for better cognitive processes. In other words, the more you interact with people the smarter you’ll be.
3. Exposure to New Ideas
- Talking to different people from all over the world can expose you to ideas and hobbies you never considered before. Keep an open mind and you might find something you’re really passionate about!
4. Get out of your shell!
- We’re all trying to figure out who we are or who we want to be. Our interactions with new people say a lot about who we are. Our interactions with new people also help us become who we are. New interactions open our minds and encourage us to see things differently.
5. “The Click”
- We’ve all felt it before… the moment when you find someone you just “click” with. It kinda looks like this… It’s also called “chemistry.” The joy of meeting someone you “click” with sets off tons of endorphins. Endorphins make you happy. Happy people live longer.
So that’s how you can be smart, happy and live forever just by meeting someone new on Chatous.
Oh yeah….and Welcome to the Chatousphere.